Forms Of Subtle Verbal Abuse

Violence can manifest itself in relationships in very subtle ways. One of these ways is subtle verbal abuse. This often comes in the form of  behaviors and words that we may not attach much importance to, but which are in reality very important.

Hidden insults, swear words, and ridicule are just a few examples.

In this article, we also share some other examples to help you identify this problem. This will cause you to stop seeing it as just normal or simply part of your partner’s character. You should never allow subtle verbal abuse just like that. It doesn’t matter who the perpetrator is.

Subtle verbal abuse in relationships

There are several forms of verbal abuse that you may not want to see. In some cases, people even accept them as something that has always been the case.

These forms of verbal abuse are:

• To fool someone in an attempt to belittle him. This may include using diminutives to hide it, for example “You can tell you’re from a small town.”
• Constantly emphasizing other people’s characteristics: “Wow, what a great body, that’s the kind of body I like.”

• Deliberately lying about all sorts of things, even if they’re not significant: “I didn’t put the keys there.”

These are some examples of verbal abuse that can occur that we don’t want to respond to. In fact, it’s entirely possible that we allow this kind of behavior into our relationship because we’ve seen it elsewhere as well. Often in the relationship that we have experienced the best up close: the relationship of our parents.

However, in order to realize that these forms of verbal abuse are happening, we must pay attention to our emotions. Are you feeling well? Do you notice that your self-confidence has been undermined?

Emotional blackmail

Emotional blackmail is a form of subtle verbal abuse that aims to manipulate the other person. What do they want to achieve with this? Often emotional blackmail is used to get something or because someone enjoys the knowledge that they have control over another person’s feelings. Using very subtle words, he tries to make the other person feel guilty.

It should be clear that if there is emotional blackmail in a relationship, there is no love. Instead, there is only manipulation: the desire to use and control the other

Within the theme of emotional blackmail, there is a technique known as “gaslighting.” In this case, the manipulator is trying to make his victim doubt his mental abilities.

By saying things like ” I didn’t say that ” or ” You’re crazy, I would never do that, ” the manipulator tries to confuse his partner. This makes his partner doubt what happened.

The target? Disorienting the other in order to gain more control over him or her. In fact, sometimes the partner may become annoyed because he knows very well what happened. However, if he shows this, the manipulator will simply ignore him outright.

The prolonged silence that comes with completely ignoring someone is also a form of subtle verbal abuse. In this case, the goal is to get the other person to come back lopsided or take the first step toward reconciliation.

Emotional blackmail and everything that comes with it can be summed up in one word: humiliation.

Ending subtle verbal abuse

Even if you don’t mind it all that much, this dynamic needs to be ended. All in all, the decision to get out of such a situation should be based on our feelings.

If you feel bad, guilty, or depressed, get out of there.

There is no “but.” A person who applies subtle verbal abuse to his partner is not completely healthy.

No matter how much he claims to love you, no matter how many times he admits he’s wrong, all he really wants is another chance to perpetuate the behavioral dynamics that got you to this point.

Let’s not kid ourselves. Most likely nothing will change.